You get busy as a distance student. Most of us already have jobs and time commitments, that’s one reason we’re doing college this way. And then you have your tests coming up, and deadlines to meet. And family gets first priority. So where do friends fit in? Relationships and friendships take energy – emotionally and physically. Here are some ways to keep friends – even when your “in school”.
1. Send a quick email
I do this all the time, send a quick “thinking of you” email. Just a note can change someone’s day, and you never know when someone needs to know you care.
2. Keep notes and a calendar
Write down birthdays, test dates, and other important events in your friend’s lives. Add them to your calendar and then follow up with them. I write down test dates and then send a quick email to let them know I”m praying for them. I write down birthdays and send birthday cards. It takes seconds to do, but it’s a treasure all the same.
3. Pray for them
I alluded to this earlier, but pray for your friends. Write down needs and requests, if they have them, but never give up just praying for someone. We don’t have to ask for it to need prayer. I know that it means a lot to me to know other people pray for me, so I try and return the favor. Prayer journals really help keep names and needs straight.
4. Call them
A quick phone call can cheer someone’s day and give you a mental break for studying. Emails are good, letters are better, but a phone call is best. Hearing someone’s voice is some of the best medicine in the world. 🙂 And it boosts friendships sky high.
Be willing to invest time and energy into events that you are invited to. Graduations, birthdays, weddings, movies. If you keep saying no, they stop asking. It’s a hard rule in life. If you are to busy for someone, they shut down. I was recently challenged to not be like the disciples, sleeping in the garden. The Lord needed them, and they were to preoccupied with earthly things. I need to make time to invest in my parents, siblings, and friends.