I bring up this subject a lot, probably because I deal with it a lot. And I think it is extremely relevant. How are we supposed to explain to people about our college experience, and deal with the criticism that inevitably comes our way?
When people ask about your college, you inwardly cringe. How much do they really want to know? Here are three things to keep in mind when you explain to people what you are doing… at church, at work, at your grandparents, at the camp ground, or at the park. You’ll have to explain, so be prepared.
Always, always, always. Be respectful of people when you are talking to them. Especially if they are older than you are. Even if someone is standing there telling you that you are missing out, or you shouldn’t be going to college, or this doesn’t really count, be respectful. A gentle answer turns away wrath (Proverbs 15:1). Stand in a non-offensive position, don’t lose your cool, and stay calm. Personally, I don’t take offense easily, but some people do. Don’t be someone who earns a reputation of a hot head. Defend your position calmly and clearly. Then move on.
Some people are going to find fault with every argument you bring to the table. Be humble and admit that there are other ways to study and get an education. Don’t be prideful and annoying. I always share with people that my way is not for every one. I make a point of telling them that it is a great fit for me, and I love it, but I know that a lot of kids would be overwhelmed with learning from home.
Personally, I think they should get over being overwhelmed. Engineers and doctors are the only ones that HAVE to be on a campus. But I don’t say that. 🙂 I’m being respectful.
While you should be respectful and humble, for heaven’s sakes, don’t become a door mat. You give all of us a bad name if you mumble something about reading at home for college. Your credits are fully accredited, your degree is worth just as much as any other state college, and you are learning a lot! When people ask you about what you are doing, stand up straight, look them in the eye, and tell them what you are doing. Be self assured. You know what you are doing, tell others what you are doing.